In children, family, kids, puppies, reality on March 31, 2008 at 4:52 pm

My sister in law is pregnant. Again. This will be their second child and unfortunately, it leads everyone to believe that her brother and I will be getting in the baby mood too. We won’t. They can stop asking now. Her stomach churns, they tilt their head and say “Oh, mmm, because you’re pregnant” and then turn to me “Katie, when will you guys start having kids?” Yeah. Because seeing a sick pregnant woman really makes me want to pop a kid out.

I love kids. I’m almost forced into loving them, really. I’m the oldest of eight kids, the youngest are 20 years younger than me and just turned 4. My parents have the cutest babies! I can’t help but love them to pieces. And my first niece, she’s soooo cute! Kids are all around me and I love them! But that certainly doesn’t mean I’m ready to have children myself.

Like I said, I’m the oldest of eight, so I think that has a large part in why I’m not ready to have my own. Not only because I had to half-raise the younger ones, but also because I’ve seen the reality of having kids. I have a “too-realistic view” of child raising. At least that’s what I call it. All my friends oooo and aaaaah over having babies. For me, instead of seeing cute perfect babies (although I do see that too, that’s just not ALL I see) I see the crying all night (all my mom’s kids woke up every two hours until they were at least two, no matter what she tried), the constant attention, the thrush, the emotions etc.

I know I’m going to have moments where my kids are perfect and googoo’ing and smiling and so adorable I just want to bite their chubby little hands, but I also know it’s hard work.

So no, we’re not going to start having kids anytime soon…maybe in a few years…but not now. Like my mom in law said in the family Christmas card “Katie and Brett are busy having puppies” (: And I’m happy with that for now!

Ooo, more later! I received some items in the mail on Friday so I have pictures to post!! YAY!

  1. Take it from someone who has two kids… you are NEVER going to be ready. I tell my younger sister all the time, dogs are harder… I’m still trying to figure out the perfect time to get a puppy! Enjoy being an aunt (I’ve been told it’s second only to being a Grandma).

  2. Pups are harder?? Really? Well, with puppies, they always love you. Even when you yell at them, they come up to you like “Oh, are you ok? I love you! I’m so happy! I love you!” (: I know we’ll have kids eventually, and I really am looking forward to it, but I know now’s just not the right time (: I LOOOOOVE being an aunt though!!

  3. I didn’t know you had such a huge family. I’m also the oldest of six…youngest brother is 11.

    I have the two, and Murray is so right. You will never be ready. But you are also never prepared for the excitement, joy, and accomplishment of raising kids.

    But yes, enjoy being an aunt. That’s so much fun!

  4. Lately I’ve really been feeling that I’ll feel good about having kids, but I just can’t take that step yet. I know what you mean though! I can’t wait for that feeling of accomplishment and love when we have kids!

    Wow, you’re brother is young too! I love having younger sibling, even though they are always confused when I say “Your mom is my mom” (: They’re still little though (:

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